They Are Not Well, They Merely Exist

By Karema McGhee

By Karema McGhee

I’ve been practicing wellness since 2003, I’ve seen the fads come and go. I’ve watched the American People become obese beyond recognition.  I’ve seen them sick, down trodden, worried, troubled and confused.

Amongst my colleagues a collective understanding flashes; “They are not well, they merely exist.”

Most of them hurt beyond expression; back pain, headaches, belly flips and more. Here, there and everywhere. Take a pill for this; watch what it does to that. Stress, anxiety, depression and the lack of sleep further exacerbates the issue.

They are not well, they merely exist.”

In an office of about one hundred square feet; six women sit on the edge of their seats at a small round table explaining “just how sick they really are.” Four of them have thyroid issues; all of them have trouble with their menses. One of them has a barren womb, and none of them can remember the last time they felt “normal”.

I sit, I listen, I understand, I remedy not.

They are not well, they merely exist.”

A former boss of mine sits across from eight of her subordinates with a shaven head and hairless eyebrows. Tears running down her face she expresses the painful experience; “that she has melanoma.”

I look to my right and the most masculine of men has been humbled to tears.

She accepts the sympathy of the group and begins to hand each person a black rubber bracelet with the words embossed on it “pull up your boot straps”.  Each one tried to hold on to the information by slowly digesting it in quiet and pulling the rubber bracelet on pass their finger tips and onto their wrist.

I however sat, listened, understood and for sure remedied not.

They are not well, they merely exist.”

I’ve watched a superwoman lose her mother to cancer and that very night prepare for a television network broadcast. I’ve watched a superman lose his son to murder and carry on as if life had not skipped a beat.

I’m watching a people who do not understand wellness because they know not what pain is.

They have become numb.

They are not well, they merely exist.”

They have been taught numbness, learned numbness and actually prefer being numb. Therefore they feel less. In a culture so obsessed with numbing the pain we’ve forgotten the benefits of being well. We don’t fight for wellness because we are busy fighting against disease.

They are not well, they merely exist.”

In a culture that medicates for anxiety verses teaching folks how to channel their nervous energy or how to handle stressful circumstances, we numb it. Push it aside, hide it, stuff it, suppress it, medicate it and never ever face it.

They are not well, they merely exist.”

It must be understood that numbness is not healing nor is it to be confused with wellness. “Carrying on” is not to be confused with healing nor is it to be confused with being well. Your ability to move forward, carry on, keep on, and exist is not to be confused with living. Yes you live, but you are not alive if you are not well.

They are not well, they merely exist.”

It is my thought that we are under a huge cloud of race suggestion. One that says sickness and disease cannot be avoided prevented or healed, partly because we are always fighting against it, medicating it, and living with it. Find a cure for this, find a cure for that. Billions each year being spent and a cure for most of what we suffer from seem to be right at our disposal.

They are not well, they merely exist.”

My challenge to the readers of these writings is simple. You want wellness, want it more than disease. You want healing; think about it more than you think about illness. You want to maintain your state of health accept nothing other than it. Protect it like you would protect your children. Guard it, like you would guard your wealth. Seek the knowledge of maintaining it like you would seek the knowledge for education. You cannot have health if you are distracted and consumed with illness.

Quite the oxymoron if you ask me. To be against something you have to be for something. Be for wellness and you have wellness. You are what you think about most.

The human condition is calling for a paradigm shift. It is calling for a state of homeostasis, its natural state of being. It is calling for a healing of the minds. Especially of those who have accepted illness and disease as the way of life.

They want to be well, they are aware that they exist.”

I affirm for my readers that illness is not strength on its own. You are strength. Your ability to heal and become well is the strength. Ask not for pity, concern and sympathy for your illness.

They want to be well, they are aware that they exist.”

Ask for prayers of strength, for returned wellness, for joy and reconciliation of good health. Ask not for sad faces and lowered eyes, ask not for support to fight against the disease; fight for wellness.

They want to be well, they are aware that they exist.”

Express to those that worry that you are on the road to wellness and that is something to be excited about.

They want to be well, they are aware that they exist.”

No need to worry about disease because it is being replaced by your wellness. Give yourself the chance to be well by removing all thought that this thing has won.

They want to be well, they are aware that they exist.”

It is your birthright to be well.

They are becoming aware that wellness exists.”

It is how you are designed. The day you affirm this you would be well on your way.

They are becoming aware that wellness exists.”

Your journey begins when you accept wellness and victory instead of illness and defeat.

Cry if you need to. It’s healing.

They are becoming aware that wellness exists.”

Scream if you need to. It’s healing.

They understand the process.”

Do what you need to do, because the time is now.

They want to be well.”

You are well because you’ve accepted that there is no other way to be! For merely existing is not enough to provide the joy you deserve. To be unwell and merely exist is useless to one’s own self – to thrive is to live in complete wellness.

Karema McGhee

www.karemamcghee.com