You Have to Have a Plan

By Connie Omari, LPC NCC

By Connie Omari, LPC NCC

As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I am faced with the challenge of assisting a multitude of people with identifying ways to live their best lives.  It is something that I am passionate about, and I believe that my gift of interpersonal skills and communication is pivotal to my success.  However, much of the positive response that I observe while working with my clients has little to do with me, and instead has more to do with them.  You see, I truly believe that each and every one of us has something special inside, but sometimes we need a little assistance in realizing what these special things are, and furthermore, how to bring them into our everyday lives.  What I have found is that when we are able to identify our plan, we can more effectively live our best lives.  So how do we find our plan?

PURPOSE.  Our purpose is our motivation for doing what is important to us.  This is the driving force behind whatever it is that we were intended to do.  It is important, because if we don’t know what it is, we can’t possibly achieve the lifestyle which we seek to obtain.  Our purpose serves as a blueprint for life.  If we know and follow it, we will live a life of prosperity.  However, if we fail to find our purpose, we will get caught up in concerns related to meeting the expectations of others, while living a life void of happiness and prosperity.

LOVE.  Believe it or not, love can be found in everything… even the worst and most desolate situations.  Life is full of the unpredictable; discouraging nuances, and elements of despair.  However, the only way to overcome such challenges is to use the element of “love” as a tool for communication, understanding, and making decisions.  Too often, we get “caught up in our feelings” and this often prevents us from identifying and using love.  We have to understand that while feelings may and often do change, love is unconditional.  When we operate off of something that will never fail, we will go much further.

ACTION.  This is so important. After all, it is the method by which making a decision takes places. Basically, it is the tangible experience of doing what needs to be done, to get us in the next place in our life. Often times, we know what action to take, but we are just afraid to take it.  Knowing which action will obtain our desired results is futile if we are not willing to take the risk associated with taking the appropriate action.  We will never know what could have been if we are afraid to act on what needs to be done.

NEW. And finally, be willing to embrace something “new.”  It is so easy to get caught up in what others have done, what we are used to, etc.  It is much harder to break down barriers and create something new.  But it is through this newness that real life begins.  We cannot possibly live our best life if we are only willing to do what others before us have done.

Find your purpose, achieve it with love, act on it, embrace the new, and you will find your plan come to life.

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Connie Omari is a psychotherapist, blogger, and author of Sacred Journey to Ladyhood: A Woman’s Guide Through Her Write of Passage.  Connie uses her spiritual, educational, professional, and international experiences to uplift women around the world.  For more information on Connie and her empowerment resources, please visit her at or